Angina Pain and Surrogate Tapping

Last night someone posted this on the EFT Forum site (if you haven't been to this site it has lots of good information.

Hello all,

My mother-in-law has got severe angina pain and is admitted to hospital. She will be shifted tomorrow to another hospital for angiography. I have done my basic course on EFT and would like to help her. Please guide me how to proceed and what tapping sentences to use.

Regards,

VJ

Here is my response:

How are you doing with all of this? You want to take care of yourself.

PART 1: First, if I were you, I would tap for myself.

I would tap on my biggest fear, or strongest emotion. For example, Even though:

* I feel terrified that my mother-in-law may die, and I deeply and completely love and accept myself
* I am not quite certain what to do, and I want to make sure that whatever I do that I don't make a mistake...
* I want to help my mother-in-law so much, and I am feeling some uncertainty (use your own words)...


I am just imagining what you may be feeling... If these phrases don't work for you, tap on the emotions that are there for you. When the intensity gets down to around a 3, then start affirming the positive for yourself. Listen to the gifts that your intuition is giving you. Some phrases that you could use:

* I am whole and complete
* I am being guided as what to do and say
* I trust my inner knowing
* I am calm and at peace
* I listen to my heart
* (continue to say positive phrases that come from your heart)


Part 2: Tapping surrogately for your mother-in-law.

You don't need to wait. I think that you can do a better job after clearing whatever resistance/blocks that you personally have (like I described in Part 1). Something cool about this, is that you don't even have to with her for it to work. If you happen to be with her, and you can look into her eyes and send love her love. If that isn't possible, that is OK, too.

You may want to imagine what happened to cause your mother-in-laws angina pain. Was there a recent big trauma or loss? What has been upsetting to her? Another words, what strong negative emotions may she have experienced recently? Or has she been carrying around some deep sadness. If you don't know her stories, you may want to ask your partner or her partner...

Here is one way to do it. Say something like: Even though I am (say your mother-in-laws name) and I am doing this for my highest good. Now, you are going to be one with your mother-in-law energetically, and make stuff up.

Even though:

* something just happened that caused me severe agina pain (if you have an idea what it was or have a hunch--you can add it here), and I deeply and completely love and accept myself
* I have a deep pain in my heart...
* my heart is trying to give me a message... (if you hear it, you can tap on it)
* (as you are tapping on yourself (for your mother-in-law AS your mother-in-law), pause and listen deeply with your heart--if something comes into your mind/heart--tap on it AS your mother-in-law--in the first person)


Also, remember that we are All Spirit. Be in the moment with this process. Be grateful.

I hope that this helps in some way. VJ, know that you can't do it wrong--trust your own guidance...

Well Being is our Natural State

Last night, while laying in bed, I picked up Money and the Law of Attraction and opened it to a page asking for guidance. I turned the page 112 and also read the line from the page before which read,

When you begin to look for and understand the vibrational causes for diseases rather than looking for cures, then you will come to the end title of diseases when you are able to deliberately accomplish the emotion of ease and its accompanying vibrational alignment, it is possible to live disease free.

The next couple of sentences, are powerful, too:

Most people spend very little time basking in appreciation for the wellness that they are currently experiencing... good feeling thoughts produce and sustain physical well-being.... Your natural state is one of wellness.

So, people who get caught in trying to figure out what is wrong with them, what is the name of the disease they have, it puts them in a Catch-22. I remember with Lyme disease, and there's a part of me that wants to say "my Lyme disease". I believe that is extremely bad because we are identifying with it on a whole other level. Ownership. The question is do we own it or does it own us. As long as we use that word "my" we are dragging this disease around.

It's not very often that we hear people say "my ease", but frequently we hear "my disease" (filling in the name of their disease). I have a friend, who's just a couple years older than me, the recently died. I remember her telling me a couple of years ago how old she was getting, and that she wouldn't be lasting much longer. Several months ago, she e-mailed her friends including me explaining her condition. It was rare and painful. The more she researched about it, the worse she felt. I called her and empathized. I tried to find a way to help her out of her condition, but she seemed more interested in believing what the specialists were telling her and what she read online about her condition.

My website is called WayHealthy... I've loved that name, but haven't known quite where to go with it. The "way to health" is within each of us. As Abraham says, wellness is our natural state. It is a matter of aligning with our essence. When we feel good, we are aligned. We don't, we're missing the mark. Our cells are intelligent. They do know what to do, but we need to get our negative beliefs out of the way."I get a cold every winter." "When it's cold outside I might catch a cold."

According to Abraham it is our thoughts and our thoughts alone that are causing the resistance that is preventing the wellness. On page 113 of $&LoA, Abraham asks,

can you direct your thoughts positively regardless of the condition?

That is where knowing how to be in the present moment and being able to align with essence pays off. No matter what is going on, we are just a twinkling of an eye from alignment/essence. It is about awareness and remembering who we really are no matter what is going on.

Page 116,

Practiced alignment -- brought about by consistently good feeling thoughts -- is the path to being pain free. Pain is only a more empathetic indicator of resistance.

In the 70s, for seven years I taught aerobics class for women through our local adult school. After about 45 minutes of working out, I would have the women lie down on the floor and then I would guide them through a progressive relaxation and then guided visualization using the golden healing light to focus on any area of the body that was feeling pain or tension. It was one way of letting go of resistance...

Something I learned when I was training myself for the birth of my children without the use of drugs, are some different techniques that alleviated pain. One, that comes to mind, is holding a small object, like a match, on the palm of your hand, and focusing on that object, and relaxing the body. It was a form of relaxation and distraction. It usually worked, and I can see adding focusing on the Well-Being is even more powerful.

Shifting the focus from disease to well-being is where it is at. Giving thanks for our health -- yay -- is the way to go. Focusing on what we want instead of what we don't want. Abraham repeats this theme over and over and over again. Why is it so hard for people to get? Our culture seems to thrive on bitching and complaining about how bad things are.

So, we need to stay in balance and harmony with our essence. Awareness is really important, too. If we notice that we are getting out of alignment, as when a negative emotion pops up, that is when we can improve our vibrational balance. If we don't, the vibration gets stronger and stronger until it gets our attention. If we are aware, and catch it early, it doesn't have to turn into something nasty. On page 124, second paragraph, Abraham talks about the secondary benefit of getting sick. We need to be honest with ourselves. If we had used sickness in the past for getting out of doing things, it's important to see that pattern. If we do, then we can be a choice, and choose what we want without having to get sick. EFT can be used to clear that old pattern.

Tap and Bitch

Why carry around negative emotions? It simply isn't necessary. All you need to do is to remember to Tap 'n Bitch. If you take the time to use this process, you will not only have more energy, you'll feel great!

Tap 'n Bitch is a powerful technique. Any time you find yourself spinning your wheels about a certain situation, event, issue or circumstance, there is something dramatic you can do that is both easy and fun. We all know that negative emotions stored in our body often turn into dis-ease. So why wait and let it turn into something nasty, when you can get it out now?

The first step is to decide on the issue. In other words, you need to be specific. The next step is to come up with a number between 1 and 10 that represents the intensity of your feelings about this issue, with 10 being the highest. You want to write the number down so you can refer to it later. The third step is to come up with your setup phrase (you can use this formula as a template):

Even though___________________________________ I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Example: Even though I am angry at Darla for using my toothbrush again, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Step four is to repeat the setup phrase three times while tapping on your karate chop point on the side of your hand.

Your reminder phrase sums up what your issue is and you say it while you're tapping on your points. Though not strictly necessary, it's extremely helpful to come up with a reminder phrase that is humorous or clever. Using the above example, I might use “yucky toothbrush”.

Step five – While saying your reminder phrase, tap on each body point approximately seven times. Check in with yourself after the first round, and do a second round if necessary. For me, step six, where you Tap 'n Bitch, is where I have the most fun. Start with your first point, and while tapping, bitch about your issue. Go ahead! Whine, complain, make pathetic excuses – really go for it! Continue for about 10 seconds or so on each point, then take a breath and go to the next point, bitching all the way. Add lots of colorful words and cussing to spice up your bitching. This really helps move the energy, and that is the idea with EFT. You want to get the negative energy out of your system.

After you've finished a round or two, check your intensity level and see how it compares with where you started. Repeat steps 4-6 until you get it all out. If you still feel a charge about this issue and you can't think of new things to say – repeat yourself. The goal is to get the intensity level as close to zero as possible.

Please do not try my Tap 'n Bitch technique while driving or operating heavy equipment. If you're shy or care what strangers think about you, consider not doing this in your local coffee shop.

Here is a link to the points I recommend using.

How I Eliminated the Pain of a Minor Burn

Today, it was a beautiful day in my garden. I noticed a pile of debris that I had stacked during the summer. There were dried artichoke flowers, sunflower heads and stems, burdock stalks and seeds in the pile, Blackberry vines and various other things I didn't want to put in my compost pile were also stacked in this pile of debris. There was just a slight breeze so I decided it would be a good day to burn it.

After I started burning the debris, and I used a pitchfork to toss pieces back onto the fire. The end of the pitchfork fell off, and there were some small pieces that I picked up with my bare hands and threw back on to the center of the fire. Can you guess what I did? I burnt my hand. One of the pieces was red-hot where I grabbed it with the palm of my hand. So, I decided to use EFT. The palm of my hand hurt. I didn't bother giving a number for the intensity of the pain. I just started tapping on the karate chop point immediately saying Even though:

.....it was really stupid for me to pick up that burning branch with my bare hand, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
.....it really hurt where I got burnt on my palm...
.....I wish I would've been so stupid to pick up that burning branch with my bare hands...

Tapping on my body, my first round, I enthusiastically used "really stupid" as my reminder phrase. My second, third and fourth round, included ranting about how stupid I felt for picking up a hot branch with my bare hand.

Two hours after the burning of my palm, I could still see a red mark on my hand and the intensity of the pain was down to about a "one". Five hours after the incident, the intensity was less than a "half "and the red mark was barely visible.

So, how can you use this information? Let's say you hurt yourself. You can ask yourself "how do I feel about what just happened?" Many times, when we hurt ourselves we feel stupid or embarrassed. Get in touch with how you feel and start tapping. You start with your setup phrase which is this formula:

Even though_____________________( include how you feel) I deeply and completely love and accept myself. You repeat your set-up phrase three times while tapping on your karate chop point (which is on the side of your hand).

Then, start tapping on the points on your body. You can use a reminder phrase, so you remember why you are tapping. After a round of tapping, continue tapping and rant about how you feel about what just happened. If you feel embarrassed, because people are watching you tap, you may choose to get somewhere private: a bathroom stall, your bedroom, or your car. The important thing is to tap and release any emotions you may be feeling so you can speed up the healing process.

Excuses for keeping weight on-- and what you can do about it

I was really surprised to find how easy it was to lose weight with EFT, and to keep the weight off. I've spent the majority of my life around 20 to 30 pounds more than I weigh now.

I think the first step in losing weight with EFT is readiness. Am I ready to do what it takes to lose weight and keep it off. If you're just thinking about it, that is start, but it's not the same as being ready, I mean really ready to deal with the emotions that are underneath the fat. That is why diets don't work, because you really don't get to the issues that cause you to overeat eat when you diet. Typically, you lose weight, then you gain it back and then some.

A powerful question to ask yourself is what is the benefit of keeping this extra weight on? What would be harder for me if I were thinner? When you come up with the answer to this question you can use EFT to clear whatever is there.

What are some of the reasons you may be keeping weight on:
.....I can't afford a new wardrobe
.....my fat girlfriends would be mad at me
.....men would come on to me
.....women would come, on to me
.....I would draw too much attention
.....I might have an affair with someone
.....I am too lazy
.....I am too old to lose weight

After you come up with a reason or pay off for keeping extra weight on, you can use EFT so it is no longer an issue.

Let's say your issue for keeping weight on is that you feel you can't afford a new wardrobe. Your setup phrase could be Even though:
.....I can't afford a new wardrobe, and I deeply and completely love and accept myself
.....I'm afraid if I lost weight all of my clothes would be too big...
.....I might feel embarrassed wearing clothes that just hang on me...
You tap on your karate chop point on the side of your hand while saying the above setup phrases. Here's a chart of all the tapping points I'd like to use.

For tapping on the body, you could use this script (and feel free to make any changes in the wording it works for you). By the way, I like to tap on both sides of the body whenever possible.

First round: tap on each point around 7 times:

.....inside the eyebrow: can't afford a new wardrobe
.....outside the eyebrow: my clothes won't fit
.....under the eyes: I don't have money for a new wardrobe
.....under the nose: can't afford new clothes
.....under the bottom lip: don't have any extra money
.....collarbone: can't afford new clothes
.....under the arms (on the bra strap area): no money for clothes
.....liver point (on the ribs under the breast): no clothes money
.....wrist points (on the wrist crease below the palm of your hand) no extra money
.....top of head (or the crown chakra): no clothes money

Second round

.....inside the eyebrow: I don't think I can afford a new wardrobe
.....outside the eyebrow: but I want to lose weight
.....under the eyes: I am tired to being overweight
.....under the nose: but what if I lose weight and don't have the right clothes
.....under the bottom lip: I don't know what I will do
.....collarbone: I can look in my closet and find something that would work for when I lose 10 pounds
.....under the arms (on the bra strap area): maybe I can start losing weight and figure out what to do after I lose the weight
.....liver point (on the ribs under the breast): I think I can work it out
.....wrist points (on the wrist crease below the palm of your hand) I'm not sure how to work it out yet
.....top of head (or the crown chakra): I'm not let this old story stop me from losing weight

Third round

.....inside the eyebrow: my old story was an excuse
.....outside the eyebrow: I choose to let go of this old story about not being able .....to afford a wardrobe
.....under the eyes: I choose to let go of this extra weight
.....under the nose: I choose to be aware of my feelings around food
.....under the bottom lip: I will remember to tap if I am eating unconsciously
.....collarbone: I know I can do this
.....under the arms: I remember to tap when I feel anxious around food
.....liver point: I choose to be at my ideal weight and size
.....wrist points: I'll figure out what to do about clothes when I get there
.....top of head: this is easy

I am available to do phone sessions if you get stuck. I have great success at helping people get unstuck. Why wait? My website: http://wayhealthy.us. Looking forward to helping you become your ideal size.

Down to size 10 pants--first time in almost 50 years

If you have tried EFT in dealing with getting to the weight that is your ideal, and you are still larger than what you would really like to be--then you probably haven't got down to the core issues--yet... I am walking proof that when you clear the stuff that is driving one to overeat AND are willing to be aware of feelings/thoughts around food/body that the weight can come off and stay off.

From 13 years old to 62 years old, I have carried extra weight--even as an athlete--when I was working out basically all day long--I was overweight (I was a PE major in during the 1960s and got a teaching credential in PE. When I taught aerobics, I was 20 pounds overweight and buff at the same time and I couldn't lose the weight--because I wasn't getting down to the core issues).

The other day I went shopping for clothes. I picked out a bunch of size 12 pants--they were all too big--YAY!!! I ended up getting size 10 pants. I haven't been able to wear size 10 pants all of my adult years. I think I might have been able to wear size 10 when I was 13 years old. This to me is a small miracle that I can wear a size 10 pants now!

Ladies, don't give up on your body, and having it at a size that reflects Who You really Are--a powerful Goddess! If you are interested in getting to the size that is your ideal for your frame, find someone who knows how to assist you at getting to the stories/patterns/beliefs that you need to unblock. By the way, I am available to do sessions via phone. You can contact me email or phone. Or take my FREE How to Stop Pigging Out During the National Eating Season Teleseminar on November 13. Email me to sign up.

FREE TELESEMINAR: Just Say No to Pigging Out--Nov. 13

You are invited to my first teleseminar Just Say No to Pigging Out During the National Eating Season--November 13.

Are you a little piggy during this time of the year? Do you want to be more in control of what you eat? Is there a part of you that doesn’t want to miss out on anything? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, then this teleseminar is for you!

You are invited to join me on Wednesday, November 13 at 6 pm pacific time. The call will be recorded for those of you who won’t be able to be there LIVE.

Here is the link to the points we will be tapping on.

Our Price: FREE
Regular Price: $26
Value: Priceless

Note: I am feeling a little nervous (tap, tap, tap,). I am jumping off the cliff of my fears, YOW!!! I am remembering that fear is excitement without breath. I am breathing into and imagining a POWERFUL teleseminar that will help many, many people—hopefully you! I am and will be using EFT to help me through my fears about not doing it right, and learning the technology (and having fun through the process).

If you really knew me, you would know that I usually gain around 10 pounds during the holidays. So, besides doing this workshop for you, I am doing it for me, too.