Releasing Resistance to Exercise

Would you like to exercise more but just haven't been able to pull it off? Are you interested in some tips on motivating yourself to exercise? EFT is incredibly powerful in dealing with all kinds of conflicts. So, if part of you wants to exercise and another part doesn't -- that could be a conflict. There may be other excuses (I mean reasons :-) that you have for not exercising -- you want to make sure to tap on those, too.

Here's some setup phrases that you can try, Even though:

• I know exercising is good for me, a part of me just doesn't want to do it, and I deeply and completely love and accept myself - even the lazy part.I know my body needs exercise, but I hate exercising ... and I deeply and completely love and accept myself
• I don't have enough time to exercise … and I deeply and completely love and accept myselfI don't know when I would fit exercising in …
• there's so many other things I would rather do than exercise …
• exercise seems like a waste of time …
• (Be sure to include all of your excuses and reasons why you haven't exercised)
  

When you save the setup phrases, you tap on your karate chop point (which is on the meaty part of your hand) with your fingertips or hit your karate chop points together.



Before you start tapping, remember to check the intensity of how much you do not want to exercise - with 10 being highest and zero for no resistance at all.

A reminder phrase helps you focus on your issue. “Exercise resistance,” and “hate to exercise,” are examples of simple reminder phrases. If you can come up with a reminder phrase that makes you chuckle, so much the better (I find humor to be incredibly powerful). Amusing reminder phrases are very particular to the individual, so what works for one person may not work for another. Some examples of funny reminder phrases could be ”lazy butt” or “couch potato.” Use the reminder phrase when you tap. Typically, you tap around seven times on each point.

When your intensity gets down to around three, you can start affirming the positive. Some examples:

• I choose to fit exercise into my life
• I choose to be aware of ways that I can be more energetic
• I choose to use my body more often
• I have fun using my body
• I experience joy using my body
• It's easy and fun for me to move my body
• I find creative ways to infuse movement into my life
• I love using my body
  

Exercise can have a bad rap. Find ways to sneak moving your body into your life. You can do things like:

• Be more aware when you move your body
• Park farther away and walk more
• Do housework vigorously
• Choose to put the remote control down and get your body up and about more often
• Put a spring in your step
• Walk with more vigorDo yard work

When I used EFT to motivate myself to exercise, I set my alarm clock 30 minutes early, and then before I got out of bed, I would tap on my resistance to exercising. After I cleared whatever was there for me, I would jump out of bed and start my exercise routine. I have great confidence that if you choose, you can find a way for EFT to work for you.

Letting Go of Sacrifice

Today, I did a phone session with a woman from Europe. “Heidi” told me that she would love to be in relationship with a man. It had been 10 years since she had been in relationship. Heidi said that she must be ambivalent about being with a partner. She realized that part of her would rather be alone, and another part of her really would love to be in relationship.

Heidi recognized that the possibility does exist that there could be a man out there that would meet her criteria, but that the probability is low. Now that she is older, in her late sixties, there aren’t as many men available.

We examined what is the payoff for being single, and she told me that she could do what she wants whenever she wants. She doesn’t have to ask anyone about what she is going to do with a question like, “does that suit you, dear?”

Heidi feels that she is willing to pay the price to be in relationship. She feels lonely and doesn’t have someone to share her daily life. However, she was afraid of being dependent.
We looked at the relationship that she had with “James” 10 years ago, and she realized that she had lost her identity and had become the sacrificing wife. One of her stories was that she was supposed to be a really good wife, and that she was responsible for the man’s happiness. She was supposed to cook a nice meal, and get his clothes in order. Part of her felt good about being a good wife, and another part (her Inner Teenager) felt rebellious about being his maid, and not being equal. She realized that she liked being a caretaker, but didn’t like it when she wasn’t appreciated. Heidi felt like she had some bitterness towards James and that she did a lot of sacrificing. The intensity of her feelings of sacrificing with James was a 7/10.

I asked her if James was just a trigger for her unresolved feelings of sacrificing. She shared that her mother had gotten pregnant on her honeymoon. Heidi was born a small baby and felt unwanted in the womb. She felt that her sacrificing began in the womb. Her core wound was that everyone else's needs are more important than her own survival. I must sacrifice for others became a lifelong mantra.
The intensity that she felt about sacrificing in the womb was a 9, where the intensity of her experience of sacrificing for James 10 years ago was a 7. The experience with James was a trigger, so I had her tap on her in the womb experience of sacrificing. I asked her to come up with a reminder phrase that would make her laugh at the cosmic joke and make a crack in the cosmic egg. Her reminder phrase was “bunch of baloney”.

After one round using the reminder phrase “bunch of baloney”, we were able to collapse the intensity to a zero. Heidi said that it was totally gone. We were able to do all of this, in less than an hour. She then told me she hopes to invite me to her wedding in the future.

Here was her testimonial that she wrote for the internet:
I found JoAnn 'by chance' on the Emofree.com and booked three sessions with her. What an absolutely wonderful experience. JoAnn helped me find the deepest layers of my issues - and I find her use of combining the various feelings around an issue into one word, representing them all in a word a two, as the essence - and also seeing it as a 'cosmic joke' absolutely brilliant. I went from a 10, with an issue that started even prenatally, to a flat 0 within a few minutes!! the thorough finding phase clearly helped, too.

I also recommend her without hesitation, nay, whole heartedly.

By the way, if you would like to follow me go to: http://Twitter.com/MiraclesGoddess

Tailbone Pain Disappears After Letting Go of Anger and Resentment Using EFT

Almost every Thursday, I take my three-year-old granddaughter to a toddler’s swimming class. The first thing I noticed when we got to the pool was that “Jenny”, the swimming instructor, was not in the pool like she usually was. She was standing out of the pool and she wasn’t wearing her swimming suit, which was really unusual. I've been taking my granddaughter to these classes for 2 1/2 years, and I have only seen Jenny not in the pool one other time (when she had a bad cold).

Jenny had fallen down five days ago hurting her tailbone and her left hand. She had taken some pain medication earlier in the day. I told her that I thought I could help her to feel better, and if she would like to try some EFT with me, after my granddaughter and I got out of the locker room.
We met Jenny in an activity room of the health club. Jenny wasn’t able to sit down because of her tailbone pain. So, we chatted while standing not paying much attention to the kids climbing under the tables and hopping about as 2 and 3 year olds do.

Jenny explained that the physical pain level right then was only about a 4/10. However, as she explained that she had fallen from a chair, and that her partner didn’t hear her calls, I could see how upset she was about how he treated her. She felt abandoned when he didn’t come, and upset that he scolded her like a child (she is almost 70 years old) when he found out that she had fallen off a chair while trying to reach something. She wanted to feel love from him instead of him acting like a “mean father”.

We tapped on the feelings that came up: anger, frustration, and resentment towards her husband. She asked for so little in life, and she was angry (the intensity was an 8) that he wasn’t able to give her empathy when she asked for it. I could see tears well up in the corners of her eyes, and we kept tapping to get it all out. When the intensity dropped to what I felt was around a 5 I had her argue with herself while tapping, and then affirm positive statements:

.....I want to let this go because this is no longer serving me
.....No, I don’t, I want to mad at him some more
.....Yes, I do want to let this go
.....No, I am not quite sure if I am ready to let this go
.....I choose to let all of this go
.....I am able to go to the calm place that is always within me
.....I am whole and complete
.....I experience the love that is always deep within me
.....I feel relaxed and calm
.....I am in balance

We had chatted and tapped for about 25 minutes oblivious to the kids running around us. She had never heard of EFT before our encounter and tapping. She sat down at the table. She hadn’t been able to sit down for days, and she did it with ease. We cleared the emotional pain, and to her surprise the ache that she had felt where she had fallen on her tailbone was gone.

A small miracle happened today in Ukiah. For Jenny, it wasn’t that small.

Dealing with a Colicky Baby

This is in response to a mother of a 14 day old colicky baby. http://tiny.cc/BJojF

Hi,

Great article.

Babies are really sensitive beings. they pick up on everyone's vibrations around them.

If moms have tried the football hold; tried burping; and the other suggestions. You may want to try Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT).

I would start by tapping on how I am feeling about my baby crying. You want to get to your deepest feelings--and the negative things you say in your head.

You figure out the intensity of your own feelings and rate it with 10 being the highest.

Then you create a set-up phrase, for example,

....."Even though I have done everything I can think of, and my baby is still crying. I deeply and completely love and accept myself".

You tap the Karate chop point on the side of your hand while saying this or variations of it 3 times. You want to get down to your deepest feelings about this. It could be something like:

....."Even though I am not sure what to do about my baby crying his head off, and it is driving me crazy, and I deeply and completely love and accept myself."
.....Or "Even though I don't know if I can take any more crying, and I am at my wits end, I deeply and completely love and accept myself."

Then you tap on the points of the body--about 7 taps on each point saying your reminder phrase which could be "driving me crazy" or "crying baby". If you can come up with something that makes you laugh, that can move the energy within you.

You can also do surrogate tapping for your baby. While tapping on the Karate Point on the side of the hand say, "Even though I am ______(say the name of the child)".

Then you pretend/act as though you are the child. Then you use your imagination/intuition to guess what is up with your child.

While tapping on your Karate Chop point you could say,

....."Even though I am colicky and I have been crying for hours, I am an awesome baby, and my mommy loves me".
....."Even though I may have an air bubble or something else may be going on, I am an awesome baby."
....."Even though I am crying, and I can't tell my mom what is going on with words, I am an awesome baby."
.....Note: if you have a sense of what the problem is change the words.

Then you tap on the points on your body saying a reminder phrase like: "tummy ache" or "colicky pain" or "tired and wired".

Here is a chart of the points that I use to tap on.

Hope this helps,
JoAnn SkyWatcher
Follow me at: http://twitter.com/MiraclesGalore

Poison Oak Miracle

Last month, I was visiting with my daughter, Christina, and her boyfriend, Liam, in Santa Cruz. My husband and I were there houseguests for several days. I was surprised, when Liam shared with a friend how he had witnessed me helping someone be relieved of their extreme poison oak rash symptoms. I had forgotten that Liam was there, and that he had actually seen what had happened. My mouth was hanging open when he described the poison oak rash disappearing before his eyes.

So here's the story. It was over three years ago that we were celebrating my birthday at my sister-in-law's next to the Smith River. It was the beginning of autumn, and the leaves were turning beautiful shades of yellow and gold. The poison oak was turning different shades of red. It was truly a wondrous sight.

Eileen, our hostess, had invited a good friend over. I wanted to demonstrate the power of EFT to both Eileen and her friend, ”Virginia”. I decided to use Borrowing Benefits and work with two people at once. I don't remember what Eileen’s issue was, but Virginia had a huge poison oak rash on the crease of her inner arm. It was bright red and it oozed fluids.

We did a couple of rounds of EFT with both Eileen and Virginia tapping along. To everyone's amazement Virginia’s poison oak rash:

.....shrunk in size
.....turned from bright red to pink
.....stopped oozing
.....didn't itch as much

You've probably heard, “Try it on everything”. What do you have to lose? Maybe a miracle will happen. Are you ready for a miracle? You won't know if you don’t tap.

Helping a Middle-Aged Student Pass a Biology Class

As you may know, I am a co-moderator on the EFT Forum. Back a couple of months ago, a 57 year old man posted a request for help on passing a class. Biology was his last class to get his business degree. He had no interest in the class itself and he was having a hard time connecting with the style of his teacher. He wanted to be able to relax and get the best of a class that he had put off until the end. He also wanted to be able to learn and pass the test--even though he was an older guy.

Well, I recently found out that he successfully tapped away his fears/anxiety and he got a "B" on the test! Not only that, but he was able to use EFT to help with his carpel tunnel that he was experiencing from his desk and computer use.

If you are interested in the set-up phrases that I posted for him to use click here and scroll down to the second post.

EFT can work for many things. I don't see much evidence of people using EFT for clearing blocks for performance. EFT can work beautifully for test taking, as seen in this example. It is just a matter of remembering to use EFT for this application.

EFT can be used for performance in:

* test taking
* athletics
* sales performance
* writer's block
* artist's block
* giving birth
* range of motion in joints


Next time you think about wanting to do something better, think of clearing your blocks with EFT. If you have a block that you haven't been able to clear, you may want to contact me for a session.

Gratefully yours,

JoAnn SkyWatcher

http://wayhealthy.us

Releasing the Pain of a Son's Suicide

When I reach out to a friend who is in need, I don't always know whether what I have done has helped. Some time ago we were visiting with one of my husband's old high school friends. "George's" bi-polar teenage son had committed suicide eight years before. George's son, who had shot himself in the family room, died in his arms.

We were vacationing with George and his wife at Big Bear. Even though I didn't know George very well, I could tell that he was walking around with a heavy heart. After we were together for a couple of days, I got up my nerve to ask him if he wanted to talk about his feelings surrounding his son's death.

With a blank face, he started telling me what happened. He went into considerable detail, but it's not necessary to share all the gory particulars here. If it were a movie, I asked him, how long would it be, and what would be the title? He replied that the title was, "Shock and Horror," and that it lasted two to three minutes.

When he imagined the movie of his son dying, he felt terror, panic, and helplessness, and reported that the intensity of his emotions was between 3 and 4. He experienced these emotions manifesting as tightness in his chest.

After several rounds of tapping, I asked what was going on for him. He said he was experiencing the pain of losing his son, and the intensity was still between 3 and 4. We did another round, and the intensity went down to a 3, and he said he felt more relaxed. After two more rounds of tapping, he flashed back to turning his son over and seeing all the blood. He described the shock and panic he felt as completely overwhelming. He recalled telling his wife to call 911. Having been trained as a medic in the Navy, he could see that his son was dying. He felt as though a lightning bolt had struck him. He explained that ever since, at least once a day, he felt struck again by that lightning bolt, and it kept the memory alive. He said he feared forgetting the pain, that if he forgot the pain he might forget his son, and that the ongoing agony had become part of who he was. A few more rounds of tapping cleared the tightness in his chest, and brought the intensity down to a zero.

Tonight my husband got a phone call from George, wishing him a happy birthday. It had been months since they'd talked, and almost a year and a half since I had worked with George. He told my husband how much he appreciated me taking the time to work with him, and that after our session the lightning bolt never came back. As I sat quietly, meditating on the miracle of EFT, I felt tears of gratitude trickling down my cheeks. I only wish that everyone who has experienced the loss of a loved one could find the peace that George has.