Tap and Bitch

Why carry around negative emotions? It simply isn't necessary. All you need to do is to remember to Tap 'n Bitch. If you take the time to use this process, you will not only have more energy, you'll feel great!

Tap 'n Bitch is a powerful technique. Any time you find yourself spinning your wheels about a certain situation, event, issue or circumstance, there is something dramatic you can do that is both easy and fun. We all know that negative emotions stored in our body often turn into dis-ease. So why wait and let it turn into something nasty, when you can get it out now?

The first step is to decide on the issue. In other words, you need to be specific. The next step is to come up with a number between 1 and 10 that represents the intensity of your feelings about this issue, with 10 being the highest. You want to write the number down so you can refer to it later. The third step is to come up with your setup phrase (you can use this formula as a template):

Even though___________________________________ I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Example: Even though I am angry at Darla for using my toothbrush again, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Step four is to repeat the setup phrase three times while tapping on your karate chop point on the side of your hand.

Your reminder phrase sums up what your issue is and you say it while you're tapping on your points. Though not strictly necessary, it's extremely helpful to come up with a reminder phrase that is humorous or clever. Using the above example, I might use “yucky toothbrush”.

Step five – While saying your reminder phrase, tap on each body point approximately seven times. Check in with yourself after the first round, and do a second round if necessary. For me, step six, where you Tap 'n Bitch, is where I have the most fun. Start with your first point, and while tapping, bitch about your issue. Go ahead! Whine, complain, make pathetic excuses – really go for it! Continue for about 10 seconds or so on each point, then take a breath and go to the next point, bitching all the way. Add lots of colorful words and cussing to spice up your bitching. This really helps move the energy, and that is the idea with EFT. You want to get the negative energy out of your system.

After you've finished a round or two, check your intensity level and see how it compares with where you started. Repeat steps 4-6 until you get it all out. If you still feel a charge about this issue and you can't think of new things to say – repeat yourself. The goal is to get the intensity level as close to zero as possible.

Please do not try my Tap 'n Bitch technique while driving or operating heavy equipment. If you're shy or care what strangers think about you, consider not doing this in your local coffee shop.

Here is a link to the points I recommend using.

How I Eliminated the Pain of a Minor Burn

Today, it was a beautiful day in my garden. I noticed a pile of debris that I had stacked during the summer. There were dried artichoke flowers, sunflower heads and stems, burdock stalks and seeds in the pile, Blackberry vines and various other things I didn't want to put in my compost pile were also stacked in this pile of debris. There was just a slight breeze so I decided it would be a good day to burn it.

After I started burning the debris, and I used a pitchfork to toss pieces back onto the fire. The end of the pitchfork fell off, and there were some small pieces that I picked up with my bare hands and threw back on to the center of the fire. Can you guess what I did? I burnt my hand. One of the pieces was red-hot where I grabbed it with the palm of my hand. So, I decided to use EFT. The palm of my hand hurt. I didn't bother giving a number for the intensity of the pain. I just started tapping on the karate chop point immediately saying Even though:

.....it was really stupid for me to pick up that burning branch with my bare hand, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
.....it really hurt where I got burnt on my palm...
.....I wish I would've been so stupid to pick up that burning branch with my bare hands...

Tapping on my body, my first round, I enthusiastically used "really stupid" as my reminder phrase. My second, third and fourth round, included ranting about how stupid I felt for picking up a hot branch with my bare hand.

Two hours after the burning of my palm, I could still see a red mark on my hand and the intensity of the pain was down to about a "one". Five hours after the incident, the intensity was less than a "half "and the red mark was barely visible.

So, how can you use this information? Let's say you hurt yourself. You can ask yourself "how do I feel about what just happened?" Many times, when we hurt ourselves we feel stupid or embarrassed. Get in touch with how you feel and start tapping. You start with your setup phrase which is this formula:

Even though_____________________( include how you feel) I deeply and completely love and accept myself. You repeat your set-up phrase three times while tapping on your karate chop point (which is on the side of your hand).

Then, start tapping on the points on your body. You can use a reminder phrase, so you remember why you are tapping. After a round of tapping, continue tapping and rant about how you feel about what just happened. If you feel embarrassed, because people are watching you tap, you may choose to get somewhere private: a bathroom stall, your bedroom, or your car. The important thing is to tap and release any emotions you may be feeling so you can speed up the healing process.

Excuses for keeping weight on-- and what you can do about it

I was really surprised to find how easy it was to lose weight with EFT, and to keep the weight off. I've spent the majority of my life around 20 to 30 pounds more than I weigh now.

I think the first step in losing weight with EFT is readiness. Am I ready to do what it takes to lose weight and keep it off. If you're just thinking about it, that is start, but it's not the same as being ready, I mean really ready to deal with the emotions that are underneath the fat. That is why diets don't work, because you really don't get to the issues that cause you to overeat eat when you diet. Typically, you lose weight, then you gain it back and then some.

A powerful question to ask yourself is what is the benefit of keeping this extra weight on? What would be harder for me if I were thinner? When you come up with the answer to this question you can use EFT to clear whatever is there.

What are some of the reasons you may be keeping weight on:
.....I can't afford a new wardrobe
.....my fat girlfriends would be mad at me
.....men would come on to me
.....women would come, on to me
.....I would draw too much attention
.....I might have an affair with someone
.....I am too lazy
.....I am too old to lose weight

After you come up with a reason or pay off for keeping extra weight on, you can use EFT so it is no longer an issue.

Let's say your issue for keeping weight on is that you feel you can't afford a new wardrobe. Your setup phrase could be Even though:
.....I can't afford a new wardrobe, and I deeply and completely love and accept myself
.....I'm afraid if I lost weight all of my clothes would be too big...
.....I might feel embarrassed wearing clothes that just hang on me...
You tap on your karate chop point on the side of your hand while saying the above setup phrases. Here's a chart of all the tapping points I'd like to use.

For tapping on the body, you could use this script (and feel free to make any changes in the wording it works for you). By the way, I like to tap on both sides of the body whenever possible.

First round: tap on each point around 7 times:

.....inside the eyebrow: can't afford a new wardrobe
.....outside the eyebrow: my clothes won't fit
.....under the eyes: I don't have money for a new wardrobe
.....under the nose: can't afford new clothes
.....under the bottom lip: don't have any extra money
.....collarbone: can't afford new clothes
.....under the arms (on the bra strap area): no money for clothes
.....liver point (on the ribs under the breast): no clothes money
.....wrist points (on the wrist crease below the palm of your hand) no extra money
.....top of head (or the crown chakra): no clothes money

Second round

.....inside the eyebrow: I don't think I can afford a new wardrobe
.....outside the eyebrow: but I want to lose weight
.....under the eyes: I am tired to being overweight
.....under the nose: but what if I lose weight and don't have the right clothes
.....under the bottom lip: I don't know what I will do
.....collarbone: I can look in my closet and find something that would work for when I lose 10 pounds
.....under the arms (on the bra strap area): maybe I can start losing weight and figure out what to do after I lose the weight
.....liver point (on the ribs under the breast): I think I can work it out
.....wrist points (on the wrist crease below the palm of your hand) I'm not sure how to work it out yet
.....top of head (or the crown chakra): I'm not let this old story stop me from losing weight

Third round

.....inside the eyebrow: my old story was an excuse
.....outside the eyebrow: I choose to let go of this old story about not being able .....to afford a wardrobe
.....under the eyes: I choose to let go of this extra weight
.....under the nose: I choose to be aware of my feelings around food
.....under the bottom lip: I will remember to tap if I am eating unconsciously
.....collarbone: I know I can do this
.....under the arms: I remember to tap when I feel anxious around food
.....liver point: I choose to be at my ideal weight and size
.....wrist points: I'll figure out what to do about clothes when I get there
.....top of head: this is easy

I am available to do phone sessions if you get stuck. I have great success at helping people get unstuck. Why wait? My website: http://wayhealthy.us. Looking forward to helping you become your ideal size.