Bringing a Man into her Life

"Martha" is the same person I worked with over 3 months ago and helped her clear her mother issues. The other day we worked on clearing her stuff that keeps the perfect guy away from her.

We spent an hour tapping away old stories and beliefs about men. I also used Lindsay Kinney's "Ultimate Truth Statement" which is incredibly powerful. With the UTS, you make a compact statement of what you want. You state it in the present tense and you include words about how you will feel when you get what you want, but you say it in the present tense.

You say your UTS and see what the intensity of it is in this moment. The rating system is the opposite of what we use with EFT. A 10 would mean that it feels really true. A zero means that it feels absolutely impossible. If your intensity with the UTS is less than a 10. you work on letting go of the beliefs, stories and experiences that get in the way of you vibrationally experiencing what you want in your life.

Then you you EFT to clear the resistance to what you want.

Marth's UTS was:

I am happily in relationship with a man in my area. Our relationship is based on mutual respect and love . We have lots of fun playing together.

We cleared all of the stuff that came up, such as:

• I had crappy programming when I was a child
• My mother said "I should never get married"
• I'm a runner
• I'm afraid of being left and made to feel stupid
• I'm never good enough
• There isn't a good guy in my town
• Fear of not being accepted
• Not feeling safe

We cleared everything that came up. The anxiety that she had been feeling in her stomach disappeared. She could say her UTS with absolute conviction.

I am happily in relationship with a man in my area. Our relationship is based on mutual respect and love . We have lots of fun playing together.

I suggested that she tape it on her mirror so she could see it.

I'd also like to say, that Martha is on disability, and I have not met her face-to-face. We did this work over the phone. I don't even have a clue as to what she looks like. The truth is, it doesn't matter.

At the end of our hour together, she told me that EFT is her cup of tea, and that I am her teapot. She thought that was kind of funny because she doesn't drink tea... I felt honored that she trusts me so much.

I got an email from Martha today. Here is the essence of what she said to me:

wow, here we are again, I may have met the neat man that I can play with, he lives here in xxxxxx and is into all the way out spiritual stuff that I have a strong interest in, he has been on the internet and we have winked at each other for more than a year, and he finally gave me a way to contact him and I got gutsy and did, we talked for 5 hours last night.....he is what I like in the way of looks, a nice bad boy type that has learned, his life has followed similiar ways as mine.....will keep you posted you miracle worker... I did a back up treatment to take place with "cindy" on monday and I do not need it now.......and there are a few more men writing to me in this direct area.....one in xxxx which I love that valley???? thank you....."martha"

Clearing Mother Issues with EFT

A woman called me this morning, her voice sounding vaguely familiar. It turns out that I had worked with “Martha,” a middle-aged woman with diabetes, about pain she was having with her hip replacement. It had been over three months since we did that phone session. Martha explained that I had helped her to clear her "mother issues" in the span of a single one-hour session. She told me that she had spent years working with a number of therapists trying to release her "charge" around her mother, and that I was the one who had finally been able to help her.

As a very empathetic woman, Martha took on pain from the people around her. I asked her, “Who was a thorn in your butt?”

She immediately blurted out, “My mother!”

Knowing that the left side of the body represents the feminine, I found it interesting that Martha carried more pain there. As many of you know, the first female relationship in most of our lives is almost always with our mother. Martha believed that all of her problems stemmed from her mother, a perfectionist who wanted Martha to be petite. As a child, Martha did not feel emotionally supported or accepted by her mother. Martha rebelled against her mother’s plans for her, and had become a large woman. Martha felt her mother’s mantra was, “Let's make Martha feel like sh*t.”

As we talked about how her mother had treated her, Martha's felt upset in her stomach. The anxiety and tenseness that she felt was at a 9-10 out of 10. She said she felt like she wanted to puke.

I asked Martha to recall an early traumatic event with her mother. She remembered something that happened when she was four or five years old. We did several rounds of tapping on that particular event and how Martha felt right in that moment about what her mother had said.

My style is to try to find the humor in the situation. One of the reminder phrases was, “Mom is a thorn in my butt.” It worked = Martha cracked up! When she thought back to what her mother had done it became laughable, and the intensity dropped to between one and two. After two more rounds of tapping the intensity totally disappeared. When Martha thought about what her mother had done 50 years ago, the charge was gone! Her stomach no longer felt upset, anxious or tense. Even the pain in the left side of her body had disappeared.

Martha had called to let me know that her mother issue was really healed. She was still amazed that the work we had done over three months ago was still holding for her. She wanted to make an appointment for the next big issue in her life – she now wants to clear her beliefs, stories and emotional charges related to traumatic events that have resulted in her pushing men away. To prepare for the session, I told her to list negative events that are related to her not having a man in her life, and to be sure to go back as far she can remember.

I'm looking forward to working with Martha and clearing whatever is in the way of her allowing a man into her life!