Tailbone Pain Disappears After Letting Go of Anger and Resentment Using EFT

Almost every Thursday, I take my three-year-old granddaughter to a toddler’s swimming class. The first thing I noticed when we got to the pool was that “Jenny”, the swimming instructor, was not in the pool like she usually was. She was standing out of the pool and she wasn’t wearing her swimming suit, which was really unusual. I've been taking my granddaughter to these classes for 2 1/2 years, and I have only seen Jenny not in the pool one other time (when she had a bad cold).

Jenny had fallen down five days ago hurting her tailbone and her left hand. She had taken some pain medication earlier in the day. I told her that I thought I could help her to feel better, and if she would like to try some EFT with me, after my granddaughter and I got out of the locker room.
We met Jenny in an activity room of the health club. Jenny wasn’t able to sit down because of her tailbone pain. So, we chatted while standing not paying much attention to the kids climbing under the tables and hopping about as 2 and 3 year olds do.

Jenny explained that the physical pain level right then was only about a 4/10. However, as she explained that she had fallen from a chair, and that her partner didn’t hear her calls, I could see how upset she was about how he treated her. She felt abandoned when he didn’t come, and upset that he scolded her like a child (she is almost 70 years old) when he found out that she had fallen off a chair while trying to reach something. She wanted to feel love from him instead of him acting like a “mean father”.

We tapped on the feelings that came up: anger, frustration, and resentment towards her husband. She asked for so little in life, and she was angry (the intensity was an 8) that he wasn’t able to give her empathy when she asked for it. I could see tears well up in the corners of her eyes, and we kept tapping to get it all out. When the intensity dropped to what I felt was around a 5 I had her argue with herself while tapping, and then affirm positive statements:

.....I want to let this go because this is no longer serving me
.....No, I don’t, I want to mad at him some more
.....Yes, I do want to let this go
.....No, I am not quite sure if I am ready to let this go
.....I choose to let all of this go
.....I am able to go to the calm place that is always within me
.....I am whole and complete
.....I experience the love that is always deep within me
.....I feel relaxed and calm
.....I am in balance

We had chatted and tapped for about 25 minutes oblivious to the kids running around us. She had never heard of EFT before our encounter and tapping. She sat down at the table. She hadn’t been able to sit down for days, and she did it with ease. We cleared the emotional pain, and to her surprise the ache that she had felt where she had fallen on her tailbone was gone.

A small miracle happened today in Ukiah. For Jenny, it wasn’t that small.

Poison Oak Miracle

Last month, I was visiting with my daughter, Christina, and her boyfriend, Liam, in Santa Cruz. My husband and I were there houseguests for several days. I was surprised, when Liam shared with a friend how he had witnessed me helping someone be relieved of their extreme poison oak rash symptoms. I had forgotten that Liam was there, and that he had actually seen what had happened. My mouth was hanging open when he described the poison oak rash disappearing before his eyes.

So here's the story. It was over three years ago that we were celebrating my birthday at my sister-in-law's next to the Smith River. It was the beginning of autumn, and the leaves were turning beautiful shades of yellow and gold. The poison oak was turning different shades of red. It was truly a wondrous sight.

Eileen, our hostess, had invited a good friend over. I wanted to demonstrate the power of EFT to both Eileen and her friend, ”Virginia”. I decided to use Borrowing Benefits and work with two people at once. I don't remember what Eileen’s issue was, but Virginia had a huge poison oak rash on the crease of her inner arm. It was bright red and it oozed fluids.

We did a couple of rounds of EFT with both Eileen and Virginia tapping along. To everyone's amazement Virginia’s poison oak rash:

.....shrunk in size
.....turned from bright red to pink
.....stopped oozing
.....didn't itch as much

You've probably heard, “Try it on everything”. What do you have to lose? Maybe a miracle will happen. Are you ready for a miracle? You won't know if you don’t tap.

Releasing the Pain of a Son's Suicide

When I reach out to a friend who is in need, I don't always know whether what I have done has helped. Some time ago we were visiting with one of my husband's old high school friends. "George's" bi-polar teenage son had committed suicide eight years before. George's son, who had shot himself in the family room, died in his arms.

We were vacationing with George and his wife at Big Bear. Even though I didn't know George very well, I could tell that he was walking around with a heavy heart. After we were together for a couple of days, I got up my nerve to ask him if he wanted to talk about his feelings surrounding his son's death.

With a blank face, he started telling me what happened. He went into considerable detail, but it's not necessary to share all the gory particulars here. If it were a movie, I asked him, how long would it be, and what would be the title? He replied that the title was, "Shock and Horror," and that it lasted two to three minutes.

When he imagined the movie of his son dying, he felt terror, panic, and helplessness, and reported that the intensity of his emotions was between 3 and 4. He experienced these emotions manifesting as tightness in his chest.

After several rounds of tapping, I asked what was going on for him. He said he was experiencing the pain of losing his son, and the intensity was still between 3 and 4. We did another round, and the intensity went down to a 3, and he said he felt more relaxed. After two more rounds of tapping, he flashed back to turning his son over and seeing all the blood. He described the shock and panic he felt as completely overwhelming. He recalled telling his wife to call 911. Having been trained as a medic in the Navy, he could see that his son was dying. He felt as though a lightning bolt had struck him. He explained that ever since, at least once a day, he felt struck again by that lightning bolt, and it kept the memory alive. He said he feared forgetting the pain, that if he forgot the pain he might forget his son, and that the ongoing agony had become part of who he was. A few more rounds of tapping cleared the tightness in his chest, and brought the intensity down to a zero.

Tonight my husband got a phone call from George, wishing him a happy birthday. It had been months since they'd talked, and almost a year and a half since I had worked with George. He told my husband how much he appreciated me taking the time to work with him, and that after our session the lightning bolt never came back. As I sat quietly, meditating on the miracle of EFT, I felt tears of gratitude trickling down my cheeks. I only wish that everyone who has experienced the loss of a loved one could find the peace that George has.